You are probably already familiar with the saying, “Love is blind.” And there is a lot of truth to that saying. Sometimes, you can fall to really get to see the true side of a person before you actually fall in love with them. And that can put you into some serious trouble. It’s really not an easy thing to do to get to truly know a person in such a short period of time. However, you are going to have to establish some sense of self-control.
You can’t just be blurting out “I love you” to someone who you don’t really know on an intimate level. You have to give it a lot of serious thought first. When you say, “I love you.” to someone, you are essentially making an emotional commitment to yourself and to that person about how you feel.
And take your time with love. It’s not something that you can just achieve in a matter of hours, days, weeks, or even months. Love is something that people build over the course of lifetimes.
You might THINK that you are in love with someone even if you’ve only just met them. But how much do you really know that person? Have you really taken the time and effort needed to explore that person’s depth? How familiar are you with this person’s core essence?
There are some very important things you need to know about a person before you say those three big words to them. And you won’t really be able to find those answers unless you ask the right questions. In order for you to really understand the integral aspects of a human being’s personality, you need to explore them with your inquisition. You need to let your curiosities drive the way that you conduct yourself in the relationship. Here are a few things that you really need to know about a person before you say “I love you” to them.
1. Are they seeing other people in their lives?
See if they’re actually serious with you first. You don’t want to be proclaiming your love to someone if you’re still trying to compete for their love in return.
2. Are they really interested in knowing about how you feel?
Before you actually decide to blurt your feelings out to someone, you first have to know if that person is going to serve as an open receptacle for your feelings. You don’t want to be letting your heart out to someone who is going to be unwelcoming. You shouldn’t have to waste your breath on that kind of person.
3. What is their sense of humor like?
You can tell a lot about the intelligence of a person by what they laugh at. That’s something that Tina Fey once said and it really holds true. You have to know what kind of sense of humor a person has if you are going to get intimate with them. You can really know that you’re compatible if you are able to laugh at the same things.
4. What makes them feel insecure?
In order for you to really LOVE a person, you need to know about their insecurities. Sure, it can be easy to fall in love with a person’s strengths; the things that they are most proud of. However, if you really want to get to know someone on an intimate basis, then you really need to explore all parts of them; even the parts that they are least proud of.
5. What is your relationship with yourself like?
Before you can be sure about your feelings for another person, you first have to be sure with the feelings that you have about yourself. How do you see yourself? How happy are you with your own life? How content are you with the direction and trajectory that you have set for yourself?
6. Are they likely to reciprocate the love they have for you?
The thing about love is that it has to be reciprocated for it to have any chance at surviving. And you don’t want to be opening yourself up to having your heart broken by unreciprocated love. You don’t want to experience that kind of pain. So, before you allow yourself to really solidify your love for a person by admitting it, try to see if it’s even going to go somewhere.
7. What are their goals and dreams?
It’s true that in order for you to find out a person, you need to get to know their past. However, it’s also just as true that you can tell a lot about a person by asking them about their goals and dreams. You can really get a good sense of an individual by asking about what they want to get out life. You also know where you fit into their lives as well.