1. Make a good first impression.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that first impressions don’t last. Think of a relationship like a race; if you get off to a good start, it’s going to be easy for you to maintain that momentum as you go along. But if you put yourself at a disadvantage even early on, then you’re going to have a substantially difficult time trying to recover from the deficit. You don’t want to be making things harder for you than they already are.
2. Always present yourself as a challenge.
She’s going to want a challenge. Remember that all quality girls are inherently hard workers. And that’s why you can’t make yourself too easy for her. Present yourself as some kind of riddle or puzzle that she has to figure out. You have to show her that there is more to you than meets the eye; and that there are layers to your personality. You need to be able to prove to her that you are a person of great depth and character.
3. Be sure to ask the right questions.
Let her know that you’re interested in her life, but be respectful. Don’t get too eager or too heavy right away. Keep things light and casual at first. Ask the simple things that let her know that you’re interested in her, but that you’re respectful of her boundaries.
4. Don’t make yourself too available for her.
Don’t make it seem like you’re willing to give up everything just to be with her. You still need to make sure that you are living your own life. You can’t give her ALL of the power. When she asks if you’re available, don’t drop anything important just to meet with her. She might see this as an act of desperation and she might take advantage of you. You also don’t want her to think that she has the power to make you weak. No girl is going to respect a pushover.
5. Understand her boundaries.
Know your limits. Remember that she is her own human being with her own distinct personality. Just because you might feel comfortable with going at a certain pace doesn’t mean that she’s going to feel the same. You have to be respectful of her boundaries in a relationship. You have to make sure that you’re not crossing the line with her. And you can’t pressure her by rushing her in your courtship. Learn to adapt to her pace.
6. Talk about yourself in healthy doses.
You can’t just keep on making all of the conversations about her. Yes, a girl is going to want to talk about herself. And she’s going to love all of the attention that you’re giving her by asking her questions about her life. However, you also need to make sure that you talk about yourself. Give her something she can work with. Show her that you know yourself pretty well; and that you’re not afraid of speaking your mind.
7. Have a great sense of humor.
No one dislikes a great sense of humor. And that’s something that you really have to know when it comes to dating. If you are able to make her laugh, you are effectively making her feel more comfortable whenever she’s around you. If you are able to make her laugh, you make her feel like she can be completely at ease whenever the two of you are together. It brings the two of you closer in a very light and casual manner.
8. Commit to her and only her.
If you want her to take you seriously, then you need to show her that you’re taking her seriously as well. Don’t be dating other girls while you’re with her. Don’t make her feel like she has to compete with other girls for your attention. She isn’t going to respond too well to such tactics, and you’re going to risk losing her before you’ve actually begun.
9. Show her that you’re willing to put in the effort.
And at the end of the day, she’s going to want to feel like she’s actually worth the effort. She is going to want to know that you’re a guy who is worth taking a chance on. And that all rely on you showing her that you’re willing to put in the work for her. You have to show her that you aren’t just looking to play around with her. You have to be able to prove to her that you’re going to take her seriously; and that all your efforts are going to show in the way that you conduct yourself when you’re with her. You have to convince her that you aren’t the kind of guy who is just going to flake out on her the moment things start to get rough and difficult.