You have to know that it isn’t too farfetched to be in a relationship with someone you just don’t happen to be in love with anymore. Remember that while it can be easy to fall in love with someone, it can also be just as easy to fall out of love with this person. And that’s why you always have to be making an effort to strengthen the love in your relationship – no matter how hard or difficult it might be. Relationships were never designed to be easy in the first place.
It can be very disheartening to find out that the person you’re in a relationship doesn’t really love you anymore. It can really break a person’s heart. Can you imagine what it would be like to have your partner tell you this? Can you imagine the kind of heartbreak that is in store for you to find out that the love of your life doesn’t have those strong feelings for you anymore? It can be very discouraging; not just for your relationship, but your entire outlook on love in general. Or what if you’re the one who is actually falling out of love with your partner? What happens then?
It’s not a situation that is totally foreign to a lot of people. It happens all the time, really. It’s not necessarily one specific thing that your partner may have done wrong. You’ve just been slowly growing more and more distant with one another. You’ve been growing apart for quite some time now and one day, you realized that you were no longer in love. And there was no dramatic instance that brought about this loss of love. It was something gradual that was built up over time.
You might have your reasons or you might not. But there are plenty of possible causes for this phenomenon. However, if you know that you’re no longer invested in the relationship, then you know that you need to do something. Because the truth is that if you continue to give so much to a relationship that just doesn’t make you happy anymore, you could grow resentful. So, if you know that you are in this situation, you need to take a step back and reassess what you really want out of love and life. Here are a few signs that you have fallen out of love with your partner.
1. You tell white lies to protect your partner’s feelings.
You no longer feel a need to be honest with your partner about anything. You know that the truth is going to hurt them anyway and so you choose to tell them a few white lies instead.
2. You don’t miss your partner when you’re not with them.
You don’t really feel a sense of longing whenever you’re not together anymore. You don’t feel this urge within you to spend time with them. You would much rather just be alone.
3. You get embarrassed whenever you are around your partner.
You feel a sense of embarrassment when you’re with your partner. You no longer feel proud that you happen to be in a relationship together. There is no sense of pride at all with the fact that you’re a couple.
4. You no longer get happy when you think of your shared memories.
You don’t really feel giddy when you try to reminisce about the best moments of your relationship anymore. You no longer find joy in thinking about your memories as a couple.
5. There is a pang of constant sadness in your relationship.
You know that you aren’t happy in your relationship at all. There is always a certain pang of sadness. There is negativity. You know that you aren’t where you want to be and you’re just not choosing to address it yet.
6. You don’t feel jealous or possessive anymore.
Whenever you see that your partner is drifting away from and you going to another person, you don’t really feel any sense of urgency. You don’t feel jealous or possessive anymore – you don’t feel an urge to be territorial.
7. There is a substantial drop of intimacy in your relationship.
You don’t ever get intimate with one another anymore. You don’t really feel the need to get closer to one another – whether on a physical or an emotional level. Your intimacy has dropped and you’re not really doing anything to fix it.
8. You start to really nitpick over things that don’t really upset you.
Usually, in the past, you didn’t really mind the little quirks that your partner had. But now, you find yourself nitpicking a lot. You are constantly looking for things to be angry about – just so you can justify your displeasure.
9. You start to daydream about what it would be like to be with someone else.
You are starting to entertain new options. You start thinking of a life without your current relationship. You are opening yourself up to new paths.