C*ckolding is one of the many lesser known fetishes that exist today, and it involves a person, usually male, getting turned on by the idea of their partner sleeping with other men. For some people, this fantasy eventually becomes a reality. Here, one woman explains how her relationship with her partner has grown stronger ever since she began sleeping with other people— while her partner watches. While it’s not for everyone, c*ckolding can have an array of benefits for people in long-term relationships. Read on to find out more about how this woman’s relationship has changed since c*ckolding was introduced into their s*x lives.
Relationship. KJ Kingsley writes via Your Tango about how her partner loves to watch her have s*x with other men, and how it’s made their relationship stronger. Kingsley’s partner is a c*ckold while she is a c*ckoldress.
Monogamy. Kingsley explains that growing up, she was always told one day she’d find a partner to be in a monogamous relationship with, and that was that. But as she got older, she realized all the things she’d been told didn’t resonate with her in the least bit.
S*x. “I’m 27 years old, in a relationship, and I have s*x with other men. No, I’m not having dirty, secret sordid affairs. My partner is fully aware that I engage in s*xual activities with other people. Not only does he know I’m with other men; most of the time, he’s present,” writes Kingsley, via Your Tango.
Fantasy. C*ckolding goes hand in hand with erotic humiliation and doesn’t necessarily have to be acted out in order for someone to be satisfied. It can remain a fantasy, but some couples may chose to act on that fantasy, like Kingsley and her partner.
Honest. “It was a sweltering summer day when my partner came to me and brought it up. He knew I had previously taken part in c*ckolding. I have always been open and honest about my past s*xual proclivities, both personal and professional. He told me he had been finding himself spending a good amount of his time fantasizing about me with other men. In fact, he said it was all he could think about,” writes Kingsley.
Decision. After mulling it over for a couple of weeks, Kingsley and her partner finally decided to give it a shot. After settling on boundaries that worked for the two of them, it came time to finding someone to be what is called “the bull”, or in other words, the man Kingsley would be having s*x with.
Bull. “I knew exactly who I wanted the bull to be for our first session. He was a good friend of mine that I had known for years and who I found very attractive. We always had a flirtatious relationship. I approached him with some trepidation but he laughed off my nervousness and eagerly agreed,” writes Kingsley.
Nervous. Kingsley admits both she and her partner were a little nervous during their first session, but in the end, things went better than expected. Kingsley was left satisfied, but more importantly so was her partner.
Benefits. “The benefits of my c*ckolding relationship have exceeded my wildest imaginations. My partner is more fulfilled because he had one of his fantasies come true and he’s a happier person day-to-day. As for me, I’m more fulfilled because I get to have meaningless, passionate s*x with handsome men — men who sometimes are nicer to look at than to talk to,” explains Kingsley.
Perfect situation. All in all, it’s the perfect situation, and Kingsley says watching her have s*x with other men has led her partner to be more aware of what she wants in bed. However, she does caution that any couple willing to try this in their own relationship should be weary of the risks that come with it.
Limits. “In fantasyland, you’re protected by the limits of your mind. You don’t have to worry that your partner will think you’re perverted or depraved, and it can be difficult to share your mind’s secrets with your partner. But if you and your significant other do decide to take c*ckolding into the real world, there are some things you need to keep in mind,” says Kingsley.
Talk about it. Like many things, it’s important to talk to your partner to make sure you both agree that c*ckolding is something you want to try. It wouldn’t be fair to pressure someone into something they aren’t comfortable with, so talking it over first can help to clear up any doubts or hesitations.
Rules. Kingsley also reiterates that you set up some clear rules and boundaries so no one gets hurt in the process. At the end of the day, this should be fun for all parties involved.
Insecurities. “Most importantly, make sure to talk to your partner about how they’re feeling. Confirming to your partner that they are still the one you love and want to be with will help dispel any insecurities that may have taken over,” writes Kingsley, via Your Tango.
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